To say that editing is an act of friendship is to recognize how it affirms both the writer’s effort and the reader’s experience. When you involve an editor—whether by choice or assignment—it means your writing is meant for more than just your own eyes. The work is being readied for a broader audience, and the editor’s job is to help you meet that audience with clarity and care. Every suggestion is a vote of confidence that your ideas are worth polishing, that your words deserve to shine. Editing isn’t meddling; it’s collaboration in the service of understanding.
Writers often see editorial marks as slights or scoldings. They’re not. A good editor is trying to make you look better—to show readers a version of you that’s sharper, more careful, and more credible than you probably seemed unedited. Those improvements make you appear more deliberate and exacting than you really were before someone stepped in to help. And if the edits happen to be poor ones—mistaken or misguided—be thankful for them and bide your time. You’ll get your turn. Eventually you’ll be the supervisor, the editor, the one holding the red pen.
What goes around comes around. Everybody—absolutely everybody—needs an editor. Humility isn’t just good manners; it’s self-defense. If you’re the one editing, don’t gloat over the mistakes you find. The writer whose work you’re improving could very likely make yours better, too, whether you know it or not. Editing, at its best, is friendship in action—a mutual exchange of care, judgment, and respect that keeps all of us honest, readable, and human.